Bottom lines require answering 2 questions: How have I enabled the addiction in the past and am I ready to stop that behavior? How am I going to begin taking care of myself? Each participants writes a bottom line for someone they know, and then write a second bottom line using a sample case. Participants learn that bottom lines are not punishments, but an effective and loving way families communicate their decisions should the alcoholic refuse treatment.. Participants explore bottom lines as promises the family members are making to themselves as well as to the alcoholic.
Each participants is asked to test his or her bottom line by discussing willingness to follow through. If it’s determine he or she might not follow through, they rewrite their bottom line, selecting a bottom line they can honor. Participants learn to define bottom lines as sacred promises.
We explore writing bottom lines when someone doesn’t have leverage or first hand knowledge of the addiction. Each bottom line is a call to action designed to help the alcoholic clearly understand decisions made by each member of the team.
In breakout groups, participants read bottom lines and ask for feedback. They make changes based on group suggestions. We ask participants to share their experience of writing their bottom lines. What did they learn about themselves? We share bottom lines from actual interventions.